When we enter into a new relationship we put all our efforts in it. If we really want a relationship to work out, we try to change our old bad habits into new positive ones.
However, it doesn’t matter how hard we try, sometimes we nurture things that aren’t real. Sometimes we nurture fake relationships.
Our friends and family advise us to stop wasting our time and effort and to start investing in a real fruitful relationship. We know they are right, but we are not ready for the truth. We decide to continue nurturing our fake relationship as if it were real. We ignore the truth, because the truth is hard.
Signs to know you are in a fake relationship:
- Keep having the same old argument
When you find yourself having the same issues with your partner, that’s a pretty good sign you’re likely in an a fake relationship.
- You don’t feel understood
If you feel like that you have to shut down a part of yourself. If you’re feeling like your partner just doesn’t understand you, and that you’re not free to say what’s on your mind, you know you’re in a fake relationship.
- Both partners are vying for the title of victim
In a real relationship, each part is “awake” to their role in a problem, and the priority for both is the growth of their relationship. Whereas fake relationships are characterized by power struggles and nobody ever wins.
- You feel drained with the relationship
In a real relationship, both partners take responsibility for any issues that arise, and they come up with creative solutions that further add to the positive relationship they share. So, if you are feeling drained with the relationship and the conflicts keep unresolved, so probably you are in a fake relationship.
- No romance, no relationship
You attempt to initiate intimacy, but such attempts are often in vein. It is evident that you are in a fake relationship.
Be honest with yourself. Don’t waste your time and energy. Stop wasting these precious resources on someone who will never return the favor.