How to Know She Isn’t the One

She Isn’t the One

Everyone wants to find love and be with someone that gives them the care they want and need. When you find out that there are problems and feel that she no longer wants you, giving up might be the best move. Here are ways to know she isn’t the one for you:


Not all women are controlling, and this can be a stereotypical thing. But sometimes, women that are controlling are not going to listen to what you have to say or compromise on things.  When this happens, it will cause you to feel miserable and you will be in a toxic type of relationship.

No one should ever try to make you feel or act the way that they want you to, and this can be harmful for who you are. Don’t let someone tell you to be quiet and do what they say and if this is happening, she isn’t the one for you.

Emotionally Needy

Everyone has emotional needs that they need met but if you are with someone that is manipulating you to get what they want, this is a red flag. There is a huge difference between needing your love and needing you to be there for every emotional breakdown she has.

Being with someone that is codependent on you is not healthy and you shouldn’t have to constantly validate the relationship. This is a losing battle for you. Even if she is clingy this is a bad sign and is not a sign of love.

Who You Really Are

You are not with the right woman when she makes you feel that you have to be someone you aren’t. You should never have to change your thoughts, values or personality for someone. If she is focused on one thing and expects you to focus on that as well, that is not okay.

You can have different paths and disagree on things but when you feel that she is forcing you to be someone you aren’t, the relationship will never work. Finding the right partner means that you have support and love, and you feel motivated to be the best you can be.

You Feel She Isn’t the One

Pay attention to what you are feeling and the signs when you are trying to find out if she is the one for you. Look out for things like:

  • The emotions you feel when she is around.
  • How you look at her.
  • Do you make eye contact?
  • What is your reaction when she talks to you?
  • What does your gut tell you?

Be honest with your feelings and if you don’t feel excited and calm around her then you might be in a bad relationship. Feelings of stress and anxiety should never be key to your relationship.

No More Dates

Loving someone means that you want to spend time with them. If you and her normally go out on dates and then she stops, she might not be the right one for you. You should feel happy and special when you are with your woman and when date nights stop, this can be a bad sign.

Always Critical

Relationships have ups and downs but when you are with someone that is always putting you down, criticizing you or getting on to you about something, this is not healthy. A relationship that is causing you pain is one that you need to move on from.

Putting You Last

You should never be put last when you are in a relationship with someone you love. Being in a healthy relationship is important and when you are always fighting with your partner or when you feel that you are never thought of this is a bad sign.

Blames It All on You

When your lady is always blaming you for things, this is not a good thing. It isn’t a good thing when you are doing it to her either. Each of you are responsible for your own self and if you are always blamed for everything that goes wrong and she never takes responsibility, this can be a bad relationship.

Don’t blame each other on things all the time but learn to live with each other in a kind and responsible way.

You Aren’t with Her for Love

Do you stay with her because you are afraid to be alone? Some people stay in relationships for the wrong reasons. If you aren’t with her because you love her, chances are you are in the wrong relationship.

Don’t be with someone because you don’t want to be alone, this is not healthy for you or her.

Always Lying

You should never have to lie to stay in your relationship. If your woman makes you feel insecure and makes you feel bad about who you are, why are you with her?

Being attracted to someone isn’t enough and you should never have to change who you are to find or stay in love.

She Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings

You should be with someone that is excited to please you and wants to love you more than anyone. She should care about what you feel, and she should love your story. Your story should be about both of you.

You and your girl should share the same feelings, values and ideas and when you are with someone that doesn’t care about the same things you do, this is a problem.

Blames You for Her Problems

A woman that blames you for everything bad that happens in life should never be with you. You should never be the brunt of every problem. This is a codependent relationship and is one that you need to move forward from. This will leave you tired and stressed.

She is Always Keeping Score

In a relationship everyone should give and take. When your lady is doing things for you and is keeping score, this can be a problem. It might be cute at first but if it is constantly happening and it is causing fights, this can be a sign of a toxic relationship.

Hates Your Friends

Love is important but if you cannot get along with each other’s friends, the relationship can be trying. We pick people in our life that we enjoy and if your partner cannot enjoy hanging out with your friends, this can cause you problems.

If your woman likes you but hates your friends, this can be because she is jealous or because she doesn’t want to be that close with you.

She Doesn’t Accept No

Sometimes you are not able to give your partner everything she wants. This can be problems with your job, stress or boundaries that you need to have. Your partner needs to understand and respect that you cannot do everything all the time.

If your partner is not able to accept the no word, this is very toxic for you. There has to be compromise in any relationship that you have.


When you find out someone isn’t meant for you, the best thing that you can do is to move on and to find someone else. You don’t have to stay in a relationship with someone that you aren’t compatible with or with someone that isn’t giving you the love and attention that you need.

Moving on can be hard but you need to make sure that you love yourself enough to not stay with someone that doesn’t care for you or respect you.

Relationship Coach

If you find yourself in a situation where you are with someone that you don’t think wants to be with you, talking to a relationship coach might help. Find one that can help to give you peace of mind and the advice you need to move on.