Spiritual Relationships at the Root

A psychic often gets questions from clients about their past, present, and future. They might want to ask about relationships that they were in, and they wonder if this person was their soulmate or even if the person might have been their twin flame. They wonder if their destiny was that they should have stayed with their girlfriend, or if the person was wrong for them from the start, and they just missed it. They wonder about chemistry, and they wonder about the connection between love and spirit.

How Spirit Connects with Love: Past Lives, Twin Flames, and Soul Contracts

Love brings up a lot of questions, and not just the usual “does he like me?” kind. Over the years, I’ve heard it all from clients wondering about fate, missed chances, and the deep, unshakable pull they feel toward someone new, or someone long gone. Was it destiny that brought us together? Why do I still dream about my ex? What is this intense connection I have with someone I barely know? These aren’t easy questions, but when Spirit gets involved, the answers go deeper than most people expect.

What Does It Mean to Have a Past-Life Connection?

One of the most common stories I hear goes something like this: “I just met them, and something about it felt… familiar. Strong. Like we’d known each other forever.” When there’s a sudden magnetic pull or sparks fly way faster than usual, there’s a good chance you’re dealing with a soul you’ve known before.

This doesn’t mean they’re “the one,” though. Sometimes a past-life lover shows up just to help you close a chapter. That energy you’re feeling, that off-the-charts chemistry, is often the result of multiple lifetimes of shared experiences. It builds, it lingers, and when you meet again, it shows up as heat, connection, and emotion you can’t always explain. But just because your souls recognize each other doesn’t mean they’re meant to stay.

Think of it like this: some people from your past lives return so you can finish what you started. Others show up to remind you of how far you’ve come. It’s not always about happily ever after, but it’s about healing, evolving, and remembering who you are.

The Truth About Twin Flames

You’ve probably heard of twin flames, where two souls that are mirror images of each other split from the same source. It’s a powerful idea, and for many, it resonates deeply. The idea is that your twin flame holds up a mirror to you, exposing the wounds you’ve hidden and bringing them to the surface so you can finally start to heal.

That’s where things get intense. A twin flame doesn’t just complete you, but they challenge you. If you’ve been carrying old fears, like the fear of being left or never being enough, your twin flame may push every single one of those buttons. Not to be cruel, but to help you grow. And let’s be honest: growth can be uncomfortable. But it’s also powerful.

Still, I always offer a gentle caution when people ask me about twin flames. While it’s a beautiful theory, it can also become a trap if you start believing that only one person out there can fulfill you. That kind of thinking keeps people stuck, waiting, or endlessly chasing someone who’s not available. The truth? You don’t need another soul to make you whole. You’re already complete. Relationships are about partnership, not completion.

So, if you’re wondering whether that difficult relationship was a twin flame, maybe ask yourself: What did it teach me about myself? Did it help me heal? If it cracked you open and left you searching for meaning, it might have been just that. But don’t let the idea of “the one” keep you from finding love here and now. Sometimes, the most healing relationships are the ones that come after the storm, not the ones that created it.

How to Know When You’ve Met a Soul Mate?

There’s something about soul mates that feels peaceful, even in the chaos. When you meet someone and it just clicks, there is no need to explain who you are or try to prove your worth; it’s not just love, it’s recognition. That’s what a soul mate feels like: coming home after a long trip you didn’t know you were on. These are the people who see all your quirks, your shadows, and your past, and still choose to walk beside you.

Soul mates aren’t just about romance. They show up as friends, siblings, mentors, or even a stranger who says just the right thing at the right time. Some stay forever. Others come into your life for a chapter and leave when their role in your soul’s growth is complete.

In romantic terms, a true soul mate will help you grow, like a strong framework that supports a climbing vine. You stretch further. You bloom more fully. There’s effort, yes, but there’s also grace. When you’re with someone like this, your spirit expands.

And here’s the truth that many people miss: you can have more than one romantic soul mate in this lifetime. Some arrive early and teach you something. Some meet you at your highest. Others might circle back when the timing is right. If you’ve found someone who brings peace to your spirit, hold them close and cherish the connection, even if it doesn’t last forever.

The Lessons Hidden in Relationships That Ended

Not every love story is meant to go the distance. But that doesn’t mean it didn’t matter.

Maybe you’ve looked back at a relationship and thought, “Why did I stay so long?” or “What was I thinking?” Maybe part of you knew deep down it wasn’t quite right from the start, but you gave it your best anyway. That doesn’t make it a mistake; it makes it part of your soul’s journey.

Every relationship, even the messy ones, leaves behind a breadcrumb of truth. Maybe it taught you how to speak about your needs. Maybe it showed you where you were abandoning yourself. Maybe it was the final push that helped you let go of old fears or patterns. These experiences weren’t wasted. They were mirrors.

If you’re still untangling a past relationship, grab a notebook and get honest with yourself. Ask the deeper questions, like:

• What part of me was searching for something in them?
• What wound was I hoping they’d fix?
• What kept me from walking away when I knew it wasn’t working?
• Who was I trying to become in their presence?

When you listen with your soul, the answers come. And with that clarity, your future relationships become wiser, softer, and more in tune with what your heart truly needs.

What Role Do Soul Contracts Play in Love?

Not every love is meant to last a lifetime, but some are meant to change it.

Before we enter this life, many believe we make agreements or soul contracts with certain people. These contracts don’t always guarantee forever. Instead, they offer experiences our souls need to grow.

You might meet someone just long enough to bring a child into the world together. Or someone might enter your life to help you break through a limiting belief, push you toward a new path, or unlock healing you didn’t even know you needed. That relationship could last five years, five months, or even just a single night. But the impact? Life-altering.

It’s hard when these relationships end. There can be grief, confusion, and longing. But often, when you look back, you’ll see that something inside you has shifted. You became more yourself. You stepped closer to your truth. That’s how soul contracts work, quietly guiding you toward healing, closure, growth, or purpose.

So, the next time you find yourself asking, “Why did that love come and go?” try asking instead, “What was my soul learning through that connection?”  Sometimes the love wasn’t meant to last… but the lesson was.

Final Thoughts

You can always ask the universe to guide you and help you find a partner that you feel compatible with. The universe is there to help you, and you are never alone. If you like being single and that’s where you’re at in your life, that is amazing, but if you want to be in a relationship, there’s someone out there for you. The spirit world and the universe will give you a chance to find romance, but you have to go out and get it!